without further ado, i’d like to finally announce the very special news that brian and i got engaged last wednesday!
it’s been a long time coming, and i am so impressed by all of the hard work and behind the scenes effort he put into making the proposal memorable. he’s not usually an over the top romantic person, but this time he knocked it out of the park.
we had been looking at rings for a LOOOOOONG time. a very long time, lol. i’m pretty picky, and we aren’t millionaires by any means, so between my taste and his budget, it wasn’t going to be a quick find.
after awhile we got smart and started shopping online instead. we realized you could get a much bigger/better diamond for way cheaper, leaving more money to spend on side stones and the matching band. at the end of july or beginning of august we sat down and got really focused, and agreed on two different sets we really liked.
after that, i went into the craft room to sew, and i think brian played video games or something. unbeknownst to me, he purchased the ring he knew i favored over the other right then and there! he told me that he had to wait to see if he was approved for the credit card or not.
the next day at work i was SO excited, i showed some of my coworkers the ring i was hoping to get…but to my horror, it was gone! i was so distraught and upset i texted brian right away to let him know the sad, sad news. he was very comforting and reassured me that we could pick out something else i would like just as much, but i wasn’t convinced.
when he received the actual credit card in the mail a few days later, i was still bummed and in no mood to go through the process of looking for yet another ring, only to get my hopes up again. i told brian that at this point he knew well enough what i liked, and i no longer wanted to participate in the shopping. (how evil genius of him to lead me on like that huh?!)
every once in a while i would ask him if he had picked out a new one yet, and he would say no i’m waiting for you to do it. this went on for a few weeks, me getting even more upset in the meantime, but trying to trust God and His timing. REALLY been trying to work hard on that!
in all of this time, brian had talked to not only my parents, but also my brother, my sister, and my best friend! he asked everyone’s permission, and i think for a few helpful pointers from my best friend too 😉
after the fact, brian told me that he had planned to propose to me at home, in indiana, but my parents wanted him to ask my grandparents for permission as well, before popping the question. he thought about either doing a scavenger hunt with one of our close family members or friends at each new location, or somehow leading me to a surprise party at our close friends’ house with all of our friends and family watching while he proposed. either of those would have been lovely. see, i guess he can be romantic sometimes when he puts his mind to it huh?!
my grandparents, and three sets of uncles/aunts/cousins live in maryland, and my other aunt and uncle from florida were in town for the wedding too. we got together quite a few times and it was a lot of fun! wish i lived closer to them all!
on tuesday night, we took my grandparents out to a vietnamese dinner, and i presented them with the surprise quilt i had been working on for them. they kept hassling me about my age, and us about when we were going to get married. when i slipped off to the bathroom, brian took the opportunity to ask them for their blessing, and now he was all set!
which leads us to the big day…my other cousin works in D.C. and is very familiar with the area. she had the day off and agreed to be our tour guide, which was already awesome, because we didn’t know the first thing about taking the metro or how to efficiently see all the sights in one short day.
brian and i have a shot glass collection. although we haven’t been to many places together (yet) we try to bring one home from every interesting place we travel. before lunch, we stopped by the visitors’ center to shop for our new keepsake. there were actually two we liked a lot, but being the frugal person that i am, i said we really only need one, and we could get another one from baltimore. after much debate, we finally agreed on one, and were on our way.
at lunch, sitting next to brian in a small booth, i felt the shot glass in his cargo pocket pressing up against my leg. instinctively, i reached out and felt it…only i didn’t just feel one box, i felt two! the first place my mind went, was that brian broke down and bought both shot glasses, lol. so i asked him, “what’s in your pocket?!” he of course said, “the shot glass.” and i said, “but i feel two!”
after being together for quite some time now, i can read his face pretty well, and i knew something just wasn’t right. something was up! but again, i thought he felt guilty for purchasing two shot glasses, when we had made the decision to stick with one. he told me to leave his pocket alone and finish my lunch.
knowing that we still had a lot of walking ahead of us, i went to the restroom before we left. i guess this was brian’s opportunity to fill my cousin in about the real contents of his pocket, about his grand scheme, and to request her help.
after lunch we went to a few museums, but were getting pretty tired. as we headed back to the metro station, my cousin “suggested” the botanical gardens. brian already knew from talking with my best friend beforehand, that i really wanted to go to the botanical gardens. i thought they were beautiful and would be very romantic. it didn’t take much to persuade me.
all of the monuments and museums closed at 5:30 pm, but for some ODD reason, the botanical gardens closed at 5, and it was already about 4:50, not leaving us much time. brian’s mom is a master gardener, and didn’t get to see the gardens when she went to dc. so here i am trying to get pictures of orchids, and lilies, and all kinds of gorgeous plants and flowers to show her. little did i know that brian was trying to look for a specific location in the gardens that he had seen online.
there were different rooms you could go into, such as the rainforest, or the medicinal, or the fragrance room…all i remember brian saying is, “well we aren’t going into the desert,” lol. the overhead speaker came on informing us that the time was now 5 o’clock, and we needed to exit. my cousin said, “what? it’s only 4:55.” lol
i’m trying to hustle up and get on out of there when brian grabs my arm and says, “stop! come here!” i try to shake free and am like what?! we’ve gotta go! the next thing i know he is handing all of our stuff to my cousin.
due to a time crunch, the actual proposal was very short, sweet, and to the point. and of course i was so elated i can’t remember the SPECIFIC words, but it went a little something like this:
“the reason you felt two boxes in my pocket at lunch is because i’ve been trying to hide this from you all day. (here is where he pulled out the ring and dropped to one knee) i love you very much, i always have and always will. will you marry me?” or something like that! of course i said yes! no i did not cry lol, mostly because i felt like security was going to bum rush us at any moment, lol. i immediately took off the ring he had gotten me for our anniversary, put on the new one, jumped up and down, and gave him a big hug and kiss! true story.
i really wish i would’ve looked CUTER for this event!! but having these photographs means so much to me nonetheless, lol. yes i know i have on a diamond shirt…no i didn’t do that on purpose lol but it was pretty convenient 😉
brian said he didn’t know if he was going to do it while we were in dc, or while we were by ourselves in baltimore. but since i “found” the ring, he knew he had to do it sooner rather than later, and having my cousin to photograph the event was priceless. plus he ended up getting sick for the next two days and we never went to baltimore, so i guess everything happens for a reason!
it’s funny because every time we went into a museum, we had to go through a metal detector. brian always went last, which i thought was just him being a gentleman. luckily i was distracted with sending my own purse down the line and retrieving it to keep track of what brian was doing. he had to continuously take the ring out of his pocket and hide it in the camera case, then explain to the security guards what he was doing. he would then go to the bathroom to put it back in his pocket, in case i wanted to use the camera. all day long i thought he either had a super weak bladder or a case of the bubble guts. lol!
we are beyond thrilled to be engaged, and to be able to call each other husband and wife soon. we are blessed to have such supportive family and friends. thank you so much for all of your kind words and warm wishes we have received already! we hope to get married next september…but being catholic has a lot of requirements, and due to our current financial situation it’s looking like it will probably be two years 😦
now vacation is over, and we are back to the daily grind and routine…but every time i look down at my finger, it brings the biggest smile to my face. ps, here is my amazing ring! it’s an asscher cut, which is essentially a square emerald…not to be confused with a princess cut! don’t mind my chubby finger haha
i’m trying to enjoy the excitement a little longer and not allow myself to get too stressed…after all, the most important fact remains…i get to marry my best friend and everything will work out in the end!
❤ c & b